Guess who's coming to our house?

WELP - Bob 's mom surprised us all and agreed to come to our our house while Darlene takes a much needed break from her care. We made the trip to Sarasota yesterday, 8/2, while Bill and Terry were there to visit with mom. On Friday, Darlene took mom to her hair appointment and on the way, mom asked Darlene,"When am I going to Bobby's?" which totally knocked Darlene for a loop. God was preparing mom for the news of Darlene getting away for a little while and had softened her reserve about leaving her comfort zone and heading to Live Oak. We will be picking her up next Sunday, 8/10 and bringing all her things here including the bird, Ricky. She will be with us for a full two weeks and then we will take her back to her home in Sarasota on Saturday, 8/23.

We can borrow a recliner from Steve & Marlyn (she is surprising Steve with a new swivel, rocker, recliner for his birthday on Tuesday, 8/5) and we can use the old one. It will be just the right size for mom and will be very easy for her to manuever since ours is a really big recliner and I have trouble getting it to move. We will also check about renting a wheelchair to take her into town some - she really gets worn out really fast now whenever she has to walk very much.

I know that God is preparing us for something and growing us with this visit. He is in control and has everything already worked out. Mom sleeps in a power lift chair and can't sleep in a bed - just too hard to breathe. She is on oxygen now 24/7 and has to have help getting dressed and bathed. She is praying now for God to take her home and is so ready to go and with this last visit with Bill and Terry, they all feel that it won't be too long. Her oxygen has a level setting up to 5 and she is on 3 now - and still struggles some. She is nothing but skin and bone, only weighing 96#. We told Darlene that we will need her primary doctors information and also her instructions (living will, DNR, etc.) just in case something happens while she is with us here.

Bob is going to talk to his boss to get half days during that time so he can be home with her in the afternoon. She will only be by herself for a few hours in the morning that way and we will have the family room arranged for her to be able to reach the phone, the TV remote, the bathroom, kitchen area and screened lanai (she still smokes a bit - one cigarette lasts her 3 days). Pray she doesn't blow up our house while we are gone. The cockatiel, Ricky, will stay in the family room on a table too - hopefully she won't let him out to poo all over everything in the mornings.

Like I said, God has it all in his control and hands and we just have to wait to see just what He has in store for us. This is going to be a real eye opening experience for all of us and hopefully we all come out of this still able to say that "GOD IS GOOD, ALL THE TIME, ALL THE TIME, GOD IS GOOD".

A lot can happen in one week

Well, God really does answer prayer - even ones that are only thought and not spoken. Tomorrow I will be starting my new job as a marketing assistant for Advent Christian Village. This came out of nowhere last week. Bob heard about the opening, mentioned it to me and had HR pull my resume' to give to the opening manager, Karen Thomas. Karen called me for an interview on Friday and yesterday I was in talking to the new CEO, Craig Carter, about the position. I was not looking for a job and this definitely was God telling me that there was a better solution than me going to Sarasota in August to take care of Bob's mother. Now she will be coming up here to stay with us while Darlene goes back home for a spell. We will pick her up and Darlene will the get her on her way back from her visit north. I guess God knew that I would not be able to handle that situation and steered me in another direction that would make more sense all around.

Of course, the sisters all think that I did this on purpose. I told Karen about the possibility that I would have to be gone to Sarasota for about a week and a half - and she was seriously concerned about that long time of being gone and being new to the job. Bob talked it out with Darlene and the new scenario developed so that if the job came to be, mom would be up here with us and Bob will take half days in the afternoon to be with her. Bottom line, a long term solution needs to happen since she cannot stay by herself and Darlene cannot be there indefinitely. She really needs to go to assisted living so that she can have the help that she needs to get dressed, bathe, and fix meals. Her RA is so bad in her hands that she cannot open things most of the time and cannot zip or button clothing. She is strong otherwise and can get around with her oxygen but just cannot really do everything for herself and needs the help. It is just plain crazy for Darlene to be there 24/7 for months on end. Another solution needs to come about with all four of the kids (Bill, Diane, Darlene and Bob) agreeing to a permanent location for their mother and then getting her to do it. Maybe with her coming up here, we can have her see what the Village is like and then get her to agree that assisted living isn't so bad after all. If she needs to sell her place for the expense of assisted living - so be it. It is for her care and health anyway. She only weighs 96 pounds soaking wet and if she gets sick with anything at all, that will probably be the final straw for her. Just pray that this whole thing gets taken care of in the long term.

Fun 4 day weekend

We decided to go to Sarasota for Friday and Saturday to visit with Bob's mom and sister Darlene. Darlene has been the caregiver since April for his mother since her knee replacement surgery. She is healing very well but with the emphysema now and the rheumatoid arthritis, she just can't be alone. She needs oxygen 24/7 now and has portable tanks that she is supposed to take with her when she is out anywhere, but...... she is one subborn old woman and her pride gets in the way. She says that she wants to keep them for reserve in case the power goes out (which is almost never) and that she is fine to leave the house without the portable oxygen. Besides it only gives her about 2 hours on the portable. She gets so worn out without the oxygen helping her to breathe and the one in the house is set so low she is still struggling if she gets up and moves around much. She refuses to set it up higher so she gets a stronger concentration and tires herself out contstantly.

Darlene asked Bob if there was anyway that we could help take care of mom in August while she goes back up to Illinois to be with her hubby for about 10-14 days. Darlene is getting a car and driving to Diane's and then they will be going to the Knepp family reunion in Indiana and then Darlene will go on to her home in Illinois to be back with Joe for a break. She could either drop mom off at our house on her way to Diane's or we could stay at mom's house while she is gone and take care of her there. Well, since Bob is working and can't get that much time off, the only logical solution to this is for me to go to Sarasota and stay with Bob's mom. They all were so very thankful and kept saying that I was a saint and going on and on... well, I told them not to be so thankful just yet because mom hasn't survived Janet yet. It will be a real challenge to say the least to be the one who has to help out the family. The up side is that there is a pool and fitness area where she lives and I can go there everyday to get a break. No way could she survive coming up here and with no real hospital around - it would be just too dangerous for her to be here. So picture me taking care of an elderly, stubborn old woman who is a remote control hog and runs the TV constantly flipping channels to watch the gorey health programs, with a cockatiel bird that makes messes all over and crawls up your leg to get to your shoulder, who also refuses to really do what she is supposed to do to breathe better but has the stamina of a horse because of all the vitamins she is taking. This is going to be a real challenge for me and for his mother (she will not know that this is going to happen until about the day before Darlene goes to get the car). His mother works herself up into anxiety attacks and the longer she has to think about Darlene leaving, the more likely she will guilt Darlene into not going. Like I said, they better not be too greatful just yet - we all have to make it through August and see if there are any survivors to this reality challenge. (HA HA)

From Sarasota on Saturday afternoon, we headed back north and made a stop in Brandon to see where Keith and Yolanda moved. They had just moved from Live Oak on July 2 and everything was a T-total mess but they said to stop in. The neighbors were having a July 5 holiday party for the neighborhood and lots of people, cars and music welcomed us to the Smith's new home. They really loved it that we stopped in and brought Cinnamon with us. Cinnamon just had to go poo in Alfies new yard (she hadn't pottied since she left Live Oak on Friday, except to pee) and she made herself right at home. Their house has a natural fed pond behind them and all sorts of fish and ducks are there. It was so relaxing to sit out back and enjoy the view and to enjoy the neighborhood noise and to see where they are living now. We stayed for dinner and then they wanted us to spend the night so we did and it was just so nice to enjoy their hospitality and friendship. We all went swimming in their pool and just totally had a great time. We then left for Live Oak Sunday morning about 9:30 a.m. and headed back to our place. It started raining and it poured off and on about 3 times before we made it home by 2 p.m.

On Monday, July 7, we went to WILD ADVENTURES theme park in Valdosta GA. It was a really small park with a water area called Splash Island. We spent most of the time there and really enjoyed the tubing lazy river attraction and the wave pool. We even went down the water slide in a double tube that flipped us over when we came to the bottom. Just another thing that I can flip. It was tons of fun and we had a blast.

Today, Tuesday - I will be heading to the vet's to pick up the dogs and do the laundry and Bob has gone back to work. We are just praying that the house sells soon and that we can get moved back to the Brandon area to be where we really want to be.

Disappointed in Live Oak

Well, the auction has come and gone. It was a major disappointment to say the least. The auctioneer, John Hill, was very surprised that none of his major property investors didn't even show up. There were only about 3 bidders in the room and the rest were the ones like ourselves who were selling their property. Out of 32 lots only 5 received any bids on them. Most of them didn't get any bids at all - which is so very discouraging to everyone involved. The real estate market is just saturated with homes and no one is buying unless they have to. It is so very scary that our friends, Keith & Yolanda, went ahead and bought a home in Brandon - in fact, their closing is today - without the sale of their home in Live Oak. I am so glad we are not in that position with two mortgages and having to sell in a market that is just stagnant. So many of the realtors are saying that the worse is yet to come and that this hasn't hit bottom yet. I don't know how it could get any worse. Homes have been up for sale here for mostly a year or more and no one looking at them or even making offers. Really, really depressing.

But through all of this God still is in control and He is going to surprise us even yet - it all in His timing and not ours. We are here for a reason and it does my heart and soul good to know that all my worries and cares are known to Him and that He cares about all of it. This morning Bob caught us up on our devotional (we didn't read the ones for Saturday or Sunday) and when he read the title of the Saturday devotional, we knew that God was telling us that HE IS IN CONTROL OF THIS WHOLE THING, not us. The title for June 14 in Max Lucado's devotional "Grace for the Moment" was The Cure for Disappointment - how appropriate and we got a bit of a tickle out of how God sends messages to us. We are trusting in Him and will just have to wait for the right time and in the meantime, we will continue doing whatever He wants us to do.

Wednesday, I will be taking Marlyn into Lake City for some shopping, lunch and then her eye doctor appointment. It is always a joy to be with her and to just be able to help her with the little things that she needs. The trips to the stores and doctors are always fun and tiring but we so enjoy each other's company and catch up on all the news that is happening. Lots of good fellowship and friendship and a great way to be needed.

So, Bob & I are pulling up our bootstraps and trying to get through this set back and we both know that we are here for some purpose and time and only God knows how the story turns out.

HAPPY BIRTHDAY, SARAH

Today is my first born's birthday. Sarah Christine Bruckelmeyer entered into this world on June 7, 1974 at 4:51 p.m. I remember it like it was yesterday. She had already given us a practice run on Memorial weekend, but decided that she wasn't ready yet and wanted to hang around for a little bit longer.

On the following Wednesday at the doctor's visit, it was decided that we would go to University Hospital on Friday (June 7) early in the morning, be there at 6 a.m., and see about being induced for labor so that she could be born. Back in those days, ultrasound was a very new technology and wasn't used like it is today - so we had no idea what we were going to have. Dr. Lewis always said that the heartbeat was for a boy so we had thought that the baby was a boy and besides that, "Bruckelmeyer's always have boys first" quoting Chuck's father, Jay. We never ever came up with a boy's name though, and even had the girls name picked out months in advance. Needless to say, when little Sarah was delivered - everyone was surprised but also very excited and happy.

So off we go to Ohio State University Hospital (how appropriate - her alma matter in 1996) and the doctor's determined that I would need to have an amneosentisis before they would even consider inducing labor. They wanted to see if the lungs were developed enough for delivery so we had the test done when we first arrived. That was about 8 a.m. and they had to do it twice since the first try didn't draw any amniotic fluid out - something in that tells them that the lungs are fully developed and that the baby is ready to be born. And then the wait began..... and we waited..... and we waited.... and finally about 1 p.m. the test revealed that "TA-DA, we can go ahead with the delivery". I was STARVING to death by then since the usual instructions are "nothing to eat after midnight" the day before.

Everything was put into place and an IV drip was started about 1:30 p.m. with the Pitossin and the fun began. I was already dialated 2-3 cm and about 95% effaced before all of this was started and when that medicine hit my system, it was like a freight train being stretched out. They broke my water about 2 p.m. and that REALLY got things going. Now all of this was going on back in the "old days" when natural childbirth and lamaze was the going craze. We had taken the lamaze classes and I didn't want anything that would involve spinal injections so all I was going to get was a local anesthetic for the delivery stitches. The breathing worked great until they told me to PUSH - didn't like that one little bit. It was FOREVER (only about 30 minutes) but it seemed like FOREVER and then it was a big rush to the delivery room (oh, yes, you still went to a delivery room in those days) and being told to "Don't push, now, just pant..pant..pant". By then contractions were coming every minute and were very strong and when they said to PUSH again, I said "nope, not gonna do this any more, it is just gonna have to ....OHHHHH" and a few minutes later Sarah Christine was born. That was at 4:51 p.m. for a grand total of 3 hours and 11 minutes of labor from start to finish.

Sarah, you were so very tiny and beautiful. You weighed in at 4 lbs. 11 oz. and were 18 inches long. You looked like a little dollbaby all snuggled up in the blankets and so perfect. Ten toes, ten fingers, absolutely no hair and such a tiny little mouth. You were just so precious and a wonder to hold in my arms. You came into this world with a healthy hearty cry and immediately had all the nurses and a pediatric doctor arguing that you could not be a full term baby - you were just too little and could only be a 7 month baby. My OB Dr. Lewis had to tell them that you really were full term and just small. When the placenta was delivered, it was only about 1/3 the size that it should be and that was why you were so tiny. You always were a fighter and strong right from the start. My little independent first born, my little girl.

You make me so very proud. You are such a good person. You always are teaching and showing others how to do things. You are a wonderful mother and wife. You are my joy and my love, always.

HAPPY BIRTHDAY, my little angel - 34 years have gone by so fast and may you have many, many more. I love you, Sarah.

Mom.

ANTS - everywhere

Everywhere you look, little bitty biting ants are crawling in the rugs, up the walls, on the furniture. It is like an invasion from "Outer Limits" - and the more Bob sprays, the more seem to come in (BIG YUK). Tonight, Bob is going to get some real strong insecticide (ant killer) and spray around the perimeter and under the house. I'm picking up ant traps to set around under the couches and furniture so some small little dachshund won't get them and play. She found some that were stashed in the spare bedroom and thought they were toys - ewwwww.

So another trip into town, with Marlyn, and a stop at Jessica's school at noon to pick her up. This is her last day in school and Keith has to be in Lake City with Yolanda for a back injection treatment at 11. They won't be back in time to get her, so I am picking her up for them. She will be 7 on June 2. She is exactly 14 days older than my grandson, Kenny, who will also be 7 on June 16. They met for the first time when Kenny's family came down for Thanksgiving and it was really a treat to see them side by side. She is such a big girl - outweighs Kenny by about 20 lbs. Everyone thinks she is 3rd grade because of her size. Both will be going into 2nd grade this fall and Jacob will be starting kindergarten (along with Kurtis) - WOW they grow up fast.

Amanda's Tag

This was a bit of a challenge and fun. Hope this is what you are looking for Manderssssessss and Sarah.

1. Age at next birthday:

2. Place I would like to visit:


3. My most favorite thing:

4. My favorite place:

5. My favorite food:

6. Favorite Color:

7. Where I Live:

8. Past pet(s):

9. Nickname I had:

10: College major:

11. First Job:

12: Goal for the year:

Our Hearts Desire

Psalm 37:4 "Delight yourself also in the LORD, and He shall give you the desires of your heart"
Psalm 21:2 "You (Lord) have given him his heart's desire, and have not withheld the request of his lips"
Psalm 107:30 "Then they are glad because they are quiet; so He guides them to their desired haven"
As you all know, we have put our house in Live Oak up for auction on June 14 and have been looking at 55+ active adult locations closer to the Tampa area. Well, we had an epithany over this past weekend and it all started on Friday morning. I went to a realtor website and just for giggles put in a search for Brandon, FL; 3 bedroom 2 bath; range $80-150,000 and up popped this house for $99,000. It was going into foreclosure and had pictures that were just gorgeous so I sent it to Bob - he got all excited about it too and we just started a map google of the location since it gave the address. It really peaked our interest (heart's desire)and when I looked at the county appraisers site it was valued at $166,000+. We contacted Keith & Yolanda's realtor since she specialises in foreclosure real estate and she found out that it is currently under contract for short sale but that it doesn't look like it will go through.
This really got us to looking at the possibility of returning to Brandon - which we just didn't think was even a slim chance of that happening. We just didn't want to go there in our heads and then be disappointed - so we just tried to find something in a 55+ location. Too many times of dreaming and having that dream shattered - for me, I didn't want that pain again.
Anyway, God had to show us our real heart's desire is to be back in Brandon and even if we have to go into an apartment for a short time there, He will guide us to the home that we are to go to. We spent the better part of Sunday searching for apartments that allow pets and have a short term rental option. There are several that fit that bill. It makes more sense to do that and to have the actual proceeds from the sale of the house to put on the other home than to just guess at what it might be. We can then take our time and really make a good decision and not just settle for something because we have to move to something else.
We really felt like a huge weight was lifted from our shoulders and that God was truly guiding our steps in a more direct way.

Shopping with Marlyn

Marlyn is such a giving person and such a testimony for all the trials that she faces every single day. She was diagnosed with stage 4 non-Hodkins lymphoma about 7-8 years ago, she has fibromyalgia and her eyesight has been giving her some problems lately. On top of all that, her husband, Steve, has battled with hep-C for about the same length of time and they both are grieving over the death of their little companion, Dusty, who had kidney cancer. Through everything, they still laugh, sing, and enjoy the beauty of life all around them in their apartment at Dowling Park. It really puts all my minor little aches and pains into perspective and humbles me everytime I think that the entire world is ready to cave in - I can look at these two and really see the hand of God working in their lives.

Yesterday, Marlyn needed to go into Live Oak for her monthly shopping. We get started about 8:30 a.m. and head into town for breakfast - today we went to Hardees. This is the first trip since my knee surgery and it was feeling pretty strong, but I knew I had better wrap it up since this was going to be a lot of walking and stops. The first place we hit after breakfast was the local Walmart. Marlyn had to get several things from all over the store; pharmacy, clothing and groceries. From there we went to Peebles so she could look for shorts for Steve - their anniversary is coming up (June 4, 25 years). This is a little small department store located in an old K-mart. And then it was on to Publix for the final part of the groceries that she needed. We were finished shopping about 11:30 a.m. and for us that was doing really well. My knee thought otherwise and was really tired for the rest of the day. But that little bit of discomfort really doesn't undermine the absolute joy that I have in being able to do just this simple task for her and Steve. Driving and making all the different stops is just a way to show them just how much they mean to me and it is something that really helps me to share my time with them. I learn so much from Marlyn everytime we are together in just how God is working in their lives and I know that He is always going to be there for them and for me and Bob as well.

Bob blogs in...

Okay it looks like it's time for me (Bob) to get in on this whole thing. I want to tell you a little about Janet from MY side of things...There are time when she might not me too organized:
Well okay so we just moved all the stuff into the house and it was a little bit cluttered. OKAY it was cluttered A LOT!!! That wasn't very fair, actually it doesn't look anything like that now:
Sometimes we do some adventeous things and have gone through a lot together. I remember the time we went canoeing - and it was the very first time that Janet stepped foot into a canoe. It was kinda rocking to say the least. We've been to places in 10 or 11 states so far.

Sometimes there are adventeous things you really don't want to remember, but we are still amazed with the results of God's many blessings. She can give those NASCAR guys a run for their money!!!She can be soooo mysterious at times...

She is so very athletic....well she can wear sports clothes. And she reads...isn't that a sport?

And soooo elegant..... What I like the most about my very special wife is that she is caring.....

I Love Janet so very much. I hope you had a special Mother's Day.

XOXO

Hon

Results of the Saturday trip south

Lovely day outside - about 80 and low humidity - a perfect sunny day in Florida. The trip on Saturday was informational and allowed us to narrow our search to two locations. One area is in New Port Richey and the other is in Hudson. We like the feel of both areas as being a little more relaxed and not as busy traffic wise as in the Pinnellas Park area. So we move ahead with the auction on Saturday, June 14 and hope that all goes well with that so we can relocate to one of these two active living 55+ parks.

Grand Valley is in New Port Richey and does not have new homes at this time - not planning to add until next year if they can get it set up. The newest home available is a 2003 without a screen lanai and we definitely need the screened outside living space. The lot rent is only $250 but it would have annual increases of $10-15. The park is only 15 years old and is very well maintained with lots of activities. There is a pool and a clubhouse with an exercise room but no jacuzzi. There are several other older homes available for lower prices.

Brentwood Estates is in Hudson and offers the new homes with several already set up and in place. This park locks in the lot rent at $425 if you purchase a new home. There is a pool, jacuzzi, exercise room, driving area and a putting green (small one) plus the clubhouse. It is also very active and has been in the area about 20 years. This is our first choice but really either one would be good.

We spoke to some of the residents in both areas and got a feel for the locations. I know that the best thing for my knee is to have access to the pool and the exercise equipment to try to avoid a knee replacement for as long as possible. Cinnamon enjoyed her ride once she got past our bumpy dirt roads and the roller coaster effect at the beginning had a nasty "urp" result by the time we reached US 90 in Live Oak. She was ok for the rest of the trip and did very well.

Mother's Day with Bob attempting to BLOG

Such a nice surprise to have Aaron & Amanda posting to the site and putting on pictures. Mother's Day started with Cinnamon getting us up at 6:22 a.m. She can really tell time since Bob sets the alarm during the week for 6:20 a.m. and Cinnamon waits and watches the alarm clock. When it goes off, so does Cinnamon - and she is STARVED TO DEATH.

We went to church and I made it up the long stairway to our Sunday school class. Going up isn't so bad but the coming down is just not too good yet. I still have to take that one at a time and definitely have Bob in front of me for security. We even stayed for choir for the beginning of the second service. That was a first since the surgery.

We had lunch at one of the few places to eat in the huge metropolis of Live Oak - we ate at LaReyna Mexican Restaurant. We have never had anything bad there and we have become a regular on Sundays. Today they honored the mother's who came with a single red rose and some baby's breath - so I did get my mother's day flower after all. This was the first time that I didn't go get something to put in the flower bed for mother's day and it felt very odd not to have that little crazy tradition. So I guess I will just have to post some pictures of flowers this year:

I also need to clarify what Aaron stated: I did NOT almost kill him with an ordinary bat - it was a WIFFLE BALL plastic bat and he could really find my last nerve sometimes. When I was looking for a baby picture of him, I ran across some pictures of him at age 5 or 6 that really remind me his Kenny - the grins and the eyes are just so much alike - better watch out there Amanda.

Your input on the site made me laugh and cry at the same time. It really touched my heart and I do love and miss you and the grandkids so very much.

Love you all very much,

Mom

Happy Mothers' Day!

Hi Mom!

Just thought I would add a special post to your blog, just for you! Unfortunately, I don't have many pictures of you, but I do want to post a few from our trip in November. I hope you enjoy your day and wish we could be there to give you a hug. (by the way, to post a picture- When you are typing in a new post- there is a little button on the top that looks like a scenic view-click on it and you can attach a file from your computer or on the web somewhere- give it a try- it is pretty easy!)

From Aaron:
Things I love about my mom:
1) Flew up from Florida to be there for my 30th birthday
2) Didn't kill me when I lied as a kid and you came at me with the bat
3) Makes good tea
4) stayed right with me when I had to get stitches
5) taught me to be kind
6) has always loved me & is proud of me
7) Even when you told me no, I knew you loved me


From Amanda:
What I love about my mother-in-law:
1) You are always positive and supportive of me
2) You love your grandkids

3) You love me
4) You are always willing to host us during vacation! :)
5) You are fun to talk to
6) You are incredibly strong to have made it through some trials in your life
7) You love your kids
So, anyway, enjoy your day! I would love to read a post about what you did for your mothers day. (as well as you, too, Sarah- here or on your blog or both! :))
We love you!

Mom Knepp Reporting

Well, Amanda, you peaked my curiosity enough and now I took the plunge. Not so sure how this works, but you make it seem so easy. Love all the information that is on your site about the kids and how they are changing. Maybe this will be a better way to get things put together.

Bob is working and I am going over your posts and catching up on all the grandkids. Such a wonderful way to enjoy your mom moments. It is great that you can put this together and keep updating as things happen. We will be going to visit some more 55+ communities this weekend in Pinellas Park (really close to St. Petersburg). Now that the auction is set for June 14, we are starting to narrow our search down for another place to live. If we go to the Pinellas area, that would be really close to the Tampa airport, the BEACH, the Tampa Bay stadium for ballgames, the BEACH, Busch Gardens, and of course, the BEACH. Guess what I am excited about!!!